What do you fear the most?
The answer to this question will produce a wide variety of answers, some probably based on phobias and many probably based on our experiences in life.
Now ask the question again in a slightly different way.
What is fear?
Fear is a natural response to a situation to stimulation, there, a very nice and succinct answer, blog over.
I would like to bring this question to two basic elements.
What do you fear?
There are two basic elemental things we fear, the unknown and not being in control.
The unknown, in which we invent possible outcomes using the most dangerous phrase of all, what if?
Not being in control usually reflects a fear of not being able to stop something or deal with something, a base survival instinct.
How do we overcome fear?
We can avoid the situation but that does not help us overcome the fear, we simply avoid dealing with it.
The best way to overcome fear is to learn. The best way to overcome fear is to understand. The best way to overcome fear is to learn how to do something differently that gives you both understanding and control, even appearances of these will change your perception and how others perceive you.
There are many things we are scared of and they usually can be traced back to those two basic elemental factors.
Education is always the answer and you need to find the education that suits you and your dog, that helps you understand the most, from which you gain the most information about you and your dog and this does not mean simply using food to distract briefly.
We often learn best by doing but we need to understand the theory and principles first and the best and safest place to learn these is in your own home where you can be your most relaxed.
We learn best when we are relaxed and comfortable. Fear is not so scary when we are relaxed and comfortable. Indeed, can you be scared when you are relaxed and comfortable?
If you can learn how to be relaxed and comfortable in situations you currently find scary, that puts you in control doesn’t it?
If you are in control, there is nothing to fear is there?
If you know how to deal with a situation, there is nothing to be afraid of.
If you would like to learn how to be calm and relaxed even though your dog is stressed, please give me a call. I can help you make such a difference to your life.